Thursday, May 13, 2010
crossing fingers!!!!
omg this day is sooo big. this could be the beginning of the rest of my life pretty much. I am waiting to hear back from the job that i had my second interview with yesterday. It felt like it went really well and and if i get the job i start on monday! which will be sooo sweet! i'm reallly excited for this. I am really hoping that I snipe this opportunity! Thank god for linkedin...that's how they found me...i was starting to think that that thing was pretty worthless but i totally change my mind! what an awesome network that thing is when it is used to its full potential! ahhh crazy! newhooo wish me luckk! cross your fingers and toes!
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
day seven.
so it's been seven days since a certain someone has decided that i am not worth talking to over a stupid dilemma that isnt even my fault. I am frustrated beyond belief, annoyed, irritated, well...i guess you all get the point. all in all i am none too pleased. however; as i was sitting around thinking about what a bummer it is, i couldn't help but think about how many times i sit in a position just like this, or similar to this and it's time to face it...most of the time it is just simply not worth stressing over.
easier said than done?
i think not.
why do we always think that the things that are best for us are easier said that done to achieve? It is almost like we live in a world where we think that we should be punished for things just because we all know that no one is perfect. So because nobody is perfect we make excuses for the things that go wrong and the people that cause them, giving second chances, faking romances, when in fact we shouldn't be doing this at all. what we shoudld be doing is realizing how much we do in fact deserve and then never settling for anything less than that. what on earth is the point of allowing yourself to feel shitty at the mercy of someone elses actions, immature actions at that.
As intelligent humans, we all know when we have done something wrong. To accept that and to own up to it is already a huge thing on its own but it is to actually mean it that means the most. And being genuine about whatever your issue is, shines through beyond anything and enables people to forgive you.
Don't get my wrong, my point here is not to say that we should never forgive, i actually cannot say that I am one to believe in grudges or hold them at all. What I am saying is that it is important to forgive for the right reasons, know why you are forgiving, and know that the apology is genuine. However, it is not okay to let just anyone be worthy of your forgiveness. I feel like there needs to be a point where you draw the line for self respect.
It seems as though i have been blinded too many times, thought i've known somebody, thought they actually understood me and then boom. you're blindsided, left without a clue and are expected to wait until they are ready to make it better. This concept is not only ridiculous to me because it is happening now, but more ridiculous because i have let it happen before and i refuse to let it happen again.
Ignoring and avoiding a situation does not make anything better. It adds frustration and hatred to a situation that could EASILY be avoided if both parties decided to be adults at the same time. If this is an issue now, who's to say that it won't be one in the future? even bigger in nature?
As much as people tell me this situation can be saved, and that things will work out, i can't help but ask myself if that is what i really want. Do i really want to go back to a situation where something is held over my head and thrown in my face when the time comes? Something that could have easily been avoided with a little compromise? By day seven i feel as though i should be moving past not running in place; and the only reason why i am running in place is because i cannot discuss my issue with the other party.
So at the end of the day i ask you this..
Will day seven be the day that you finally let yourself deserve better?
easier said than done?
i think not.
why do we always think that the things that are best for us are easier said that done to achieve? It is almost like we live in a world where we think that we should be punished for things just because we all know that no one is perfect. So because nobody is perfect we make excuses for the things that go wrong and the people that cause them, giving second chances, faking romances, when in fact we shouldn't be doing this at all. what we shoudld be doing is realizing how much we do in fact deserve and then never settling for anything less than that. what on earth is the point of allowing yourself to feel shitty at the mercy of someone elses actions, immature actions at that.
As intelligent humans, we all know when we have done something wrong. To accept that and to own up to it is already a huge thing on its own but it is to actually mean it that means the most. And being genuine about whatever your issue is, shines through beyond anything and enables people to forgive you.
Don't get my wrong, my point here is not to say that we should never forgive, i actually cannot say that I am one to believe in grudges or hold them at all. What I am saying is that it is important to forgive for the right reasons, know why you are forgiving, and know that the apology is genuine. However, it is not okay to let just anyone be worthy of your forgiveness. I feel like there needs to be a point where you draw the line for self respect.
It seems as though i have been blinded too many times, thought i've known somebody, thought they actually understood me and then boom. you're blindsided, left without a clue and are expected to wait until they are ready to make it better. This concept is not only ridiculous to me because it is happening now, but more ridiculous because i have let it happen before and i refuse to let it happen again.
Ignoring and avoiding a situation does not make anything better. It adds frustration and hatred to a situation that could EASILY be avoided if both parties decided to be adults at the same time. If this is an issue now, who's to say that it won't be one in the future? even bigger in nature?
As much as people tell me this situation can be saved, and that things will work out, i can't help but ask myself if that is what i really want. Do i really want to go back to a situation where something is held over my head and thrown in my face when the time comes? Something that could have easily been avoided with a little compromise? By day seven i feel as though i should be moving past not running in place; and the only reason why i am running in place is because i cannot discuss my issue with the other party.
So at the end of the day i ask you this..
Will day seven be the day that you finally let yourself deserve better?
Sunday, May 2, 2010
the longest road.
crushing on these lyrics right nowwww.
Giddy up and go
We'll go so far as we please
Giddy up and gold mine
Different place, different time
All the stars are in their prime
Pastel trailer park, stars so bright to hide the dark
All is quiet in the yard
Giddy up and gold dust, all the cars turn to rust
You've got no means for wanderlust
Pastel trailer park, stars so bright to hide the dark
All is quiet in the yard
If you are so frequently in love
If you prefer it all to me then my love
You go down the longest road to nowhere
You pull it apart and you're just left there
Giddy up and gold mine, horse dust down time
Its my life, its my time, we've been gettin' nowhere
Gold mine, different place, different time
Hold me down, Hold me down
Hope will be found, Follow me
If you are so frequently in love
If you prefer it all to me then my love
You go down the longest road to nowhere
You pull it apart and your just left there
They're waiting for it, you're waiting for it
And you're waving in it, and you're craving in it
If you fill my cup with all you must
To speak from something
If you are so frequently in love
If you prefer it all to me then my love
You go down the longest road to nowhere
You pull it apart and your just left there
You go down the longest road to nowhere
You pull it apart and your just left there.
Giddy up and go
We'll go so far as we please
Giddy up and gold mine
Different place, different time
All the stars are in their prime
Pastel trailer park, stars so bright to hide the dark
All is quiet in the yard
Giddy up and gold dust, all the cars turn to rust
You've got no means for wanderlust
Pastel trailer park, stars so bright to hide the dark
All is quiet in the yard
If you are so frequently in love
If you prefer it all to me then my love
You go down the longest road to nowhere
You pull it apart and you're just left there
Giddy up and gold mine, horse dust down time
Its my life, its my time, we've been gettin' nowhere
Gold mine, different place, different time
Hold me down, Hold me down
Hope will be found, Follow me
If you are so frequently in love
If you prefer it all to me then my love
You go down the longest road to nowhere
You pull it apart and your just left there
They're waiting for it, you're waiting for it
And you're waving in it, and you're craving in it
If you fill my cup with all you must
To speak from something
If you are so frequently in love
If you prefer it all to me then my love
You go down the longest road to nowhere
You pull it apart and your just left there
You go down the longest road to nowhere
You pull it apart and your just left there.
Saturday, May 1, 2010
bummer.
there's only so long i can be bummed.
ive learned how to deal with this shit now.
i dunno if it's worse that i can deal with it or that it keeps happening.
i keep picking the wrong people.
hoping that this time it will be different.
but let's face it. flaws eventually become flaws you have to deal with and later becomes today and there is nothing you can do to fix it.
f m l
royally.
ive learned how to deal with this shit now.
i dunno if it's worse that i can deal with it or that it keeps happening.
i keep picking the wrong people.
hoping that this time it will be different.
but let's face it. flaws eventually become flaws you have to deal with and later becomes today and there is nothing you can do to fix it.
f m l
royally.
Friday, April 16, 2010
let's go BLUE JAYS!
this is about to be my summmerrr. blue jays games and 3.50 pints at the loose moose! UMMM yes pleaseee! this is me and danielle :)
miscommunication station.
alright...so i'm on my way to peterborough again tomorrow for the second weekend in a row...last weekend..well just thursday and friday, oh and i guess a bit of saturday was rowdyyyy. I woke up to glasses of wine, beer, and well...the unthinkable really.
actually unthinkable, cuz i don't remember much. expect for making some decisons I am well aware now that I should not have.
It's weird. when you have a certain connection with someone and you've had it for going on five years. OMG now that i think of it...5 years is RIDICULOUS. over the top. EXTENSIVE, EXCESSIVE. i can't believe that i just put it into perspective like that...basically when you have an ongoing understanding with someone its so hard to break away from it. even when you think uve fallen for other people, and oftentimes you don't even have to convince urself that ur over the 5 year fling you just know that you are...that is...until you see the person again. This is exactly what happened to me. im weak. i caved. and i have someone else who i know all in all that i connect with just as well if not better. I guess it's a matter of who is around at what time. Peterborough was a time that shouldnt have happened. I already know what is at stake. We get too emotionally attached to one another and we take turns doing it. For a couple of years I was the one that wanted so much more, wanted to make things work, wanted more than just the fling and now it's the other way around which is insane cuz now i totally know how he felt and he totally knows how i felt.
anyway, ill spare everyone, including myself and my brain that just seems to be voming thru my fingertips onto this blog. so anyway, point being i fell into the trap again and fuelled this almost 5 year fling. I guess they arent called flings after years ehh...its just messed up cuz i know how much i like this other guy. it is ridic...in all reality were sooo good for each other but the distance just kills it. I am sooo not willing to do long distance again after my first go at things..it wasn't so...well...lets just say it didnt end well. nevertheless, i know it would be different this time around but i simply dont want a boyfriend. There were times where i thought that i was just trying to convince myself of it...but no. I actually mean it now...I cant see the good that can come out of a relationship for me right now. i am in a stage right now where i just want to be selfish and do my own thing and not have to worry enough for two people. it's just pointless right now. I want to be able to not feel bad if im just having a good time and happen to be attracted to someone else...
the problem is that i want the best of both worlds. and I hate myself for it (k whoa hate is strong) but i feel like i shud be able to take what i dish right. But for some reason at times i styll feel guilty about things..like my actions in peterborough last weekend...i had to come home and tell someone that i really care about over msn that i made bad choices and read all about his disappointment when really i caused it all. But he has too much pride to admit, i have too much pride to admit that i feel bad cuz that just leads to "the convo" the convo that i dont want to have that determines things. I have to breakdown everything im thinking and after seeing my rambling i dont think that such a good idea...in face its a great way of pushing ppl away that i claim to care about. fml.
the plan is that i have to go to peterborough and just have a good time. just have fun. but not too much fun. How do u explain to someone that u care about them so much that you dont want to be with them. and that u styll like them so much that u dont wanna tell them. and that u styll fall for someone else everytime u see them but it means nothing. it means so little that u risk it anyway for someone who means everything.
sooo much food for thought that i'm full just looking at this.
actually unthinkable, cuz i don't remember much. expect for making some decisons I am well aware now that I should not have.
It's weird. when you have a certain connection with someone and you've had it for going on five years. OMG now that i think of it...5 years is RIDICULOUS. over the top. EXTENSIVE, EXCESSIVE. i can't believe that i just put it into perspective like that...basically when you have an ongoing understanding with someone its so hard to break away from it. even when you think uve fallen for other people, and oftentimes you don't even have to convince urself that ur over the 5 year fling you just know that you are...that is...until you see the person again. This is exactly what happened to me. im weak. i caved. and i have someone else who i know all in all that i connect with just as well if not better. I guess it's a matter of who is around at what time. Peterborough was a time that shouldnt have happened. I already know what is at stake. We get too emotionally attached to one another and we take turns doing it. For a couple of years I was the one that wanted so much more, wanted to make things work, wanted more than just the fling and now it's the other way around which is insane cuz now i totally know how he felt and he totally knows how i felt.
anyway, ill spare everyone, including myself and my brain that just seems to be voming thru my fingertips onto this blog. so anyway, point being i fell into the trap again and fuelled this almost 5 year fling. I guess they arent called flings after years ehh...its just messed up cuz i know how much i like this other guy. it is ridic...in all reality were sooo good for each other but the distance just kills it. I am sooo not willing to do long distance again after my first go at things..it wasn't so...well...lets just say it didnt end well. nevertheless, i know it would be different this time around but i simply dont want a boyfriend. There were times where i thought that i was just trying to convince myself of it...but no. I actually mean it now...I cant see the good that can come out of a relationship for me right now. i am in a stage right now where i just want to be selfish and do my own thing and not have to worry enough for two people. it's just pointless right now. I want to be able to not feel bad if im just having a good time and happen to be attracted to someone else...
the problem is that i want the best of both worlds. and I hate myself for it (k whoa hate is strong) but i feel like i shud be able to take what i dish right. But for some reason at times i styll feel guilty about things..like my actions in peterborough last weekend...i had to come home and tell someone that i really care about over msn that i made bad choices and read all about his disappointment when really i caused it all. But he has too much pride to admit, i have too much pride to admit that i feel bad cuz that just leads to "the convo" the convo that i dont want to have that determines things. I have to breakdown everything im thinking and after seeing my rambling i dont think that such a good idea...in face its a great way of pushing ppl away that i claim to care about. fml.
the plan is that i have to go to peterborough and just have a good time. just have fun. but not too much fun. How do u explain to someone that u care about them so much that you dont want to be with them. and that u styll like them so much that u dont wanna tell them. and that u styll fall for someone else everytime u see them but it means nothing. it means so little that u risk it anyway for someone who means everything.
sooo much food for thought that i'm full just looking at this.
long time no see.
k i am so gunna do a better job of writing in this more often. I have been so busy doing things that don't really matter...like blue jays home openers, having 3.50 pints, working, applying...k wait...that's all super important..work and play haha but so much has been going on! went to peterborough last weekend...umm may or may not have done things i shud regret but dont really. yeah. good for me. it's a neverending cycle it seems and as im a couple of glasses of red wine deep, the more i justify my behaviour to myself. Good thing it's styll an antioxidant, at least I'm doing something right, right? hahaha so got in a lil tiff with jay today...can't really say that it was my happiest moment. but who would say that neway. It was just stupid. I guess i could blame a lot of it on me just trying to push my opinion and thoughts and a small amount on my slight annoyance and jealousy. I'm not even that jealous of a person. I know people say that only to make themselves seem less jealous but I'm being serious. There is nothing that this gurl has on me...I already know where i stand with my situation, it's just the fact that it keeps getting brought up and i keep wanting to get rid of it as soon as possible and I guess my eagerness gets intimidating and is too much for him to handle. whatever.
enough of that. soooo rugby practice #1 was today...i missed it and I'm not going to till next week, it's just pre season and i need to make sure that i'm in good enough shape after my three year hiatus. fml capital letters. But it should be fine. I just may have to play a new position and I don't know how stoked I am about that but whatever, it's gunna be a great summer and I'm stoked to visit out west and see my lovess especially walker who i MISS more and more each day! love that kids life..but actually in a platonic way obvi event tho ppl spread madd rumours about us.
Gunna go to a movie with the sis tomorrow and i have to jog in the morn so i shud really get off this thing. I will keep yall posted obviously. good to be back...who knew that lil rants could go so farrrr. will post pics and vids soon.
muchhh loveee!
enough of that. soooo rugby practice #1 was today...i missed it and I'm not going to till next week, it's just pre season and i need to make sure that i'm in good enough shape after my three year hiatus. fml capital letters. But it should be fine. I just may have to play a new position and I don't know how stoked I am about that but whatever, it's gunna be a great summer and I'm stoked to visit out west and see my lovess especially walker who i MISS more and more each day! love that kids life..but actually in a platonic way obvi event tho ppl spread madd rumours about us.
Gunna go to a movie with the sis tomorrow and i have to jog in the morn so i shud really get off this thing. I will keep yall posted obviously. good to be back...who knew that lil rants could go so farrrr. will post pics and vids soon.
muchhh loveee!
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